As usual, I will start my post off with a variation of the usual disclaimer. To those of you who are sensitive to language, do not read this. To those of you who are averse to understanding the views of others, do not read this. If you hate me, either read this or don't. I don't give two fucks. Parents, leave your kids in the car with the windows cracked open, cause the rabbit hole goes deep-- Just like your wife.
I'll start out tonight with a question. Have you ever disagreed with anyone? I'll give you a moment to think it over and now it's over because I know the answer is yes.
Now for another question. Do you think that arguments and disagreements and creative differences are bad things? In most cases, the answer is yes. Most of us think they're not good, and so they end up that way. But that's not always the case.
Take for example a intimate relationship between two people. To make it easier for me to relate to as I write, we'll say this couple is a man and a woman. It's widely accepted that we tend to couple with those who are most like us. We agree on many things. We tell the other person things that we want to hear and they, in turn, tell us what we want to hear.
You may be thinking to yourself that such is the recipe for a healthy and loving relationship. I'm right, aren't I? Well, if you know me then you'll know I'm totally going in the opposite direction with this. Much like the honey badger, I don't give a shit about your psyche. I do what I want.
What happens to couples who have huge disagreements and argue a lot? They break up. They get a divorce. They break their families. The recipe is right, mostly. It's people who are wrong.
We constantly believe that we have to support the other person in a relationship even when we know they're incorrect. We tell them that their attitude towards a group is right because if we don't, they'll be upset with us and it could put our perfect worlds in jeopardy. What about the kids? What about us? I really like this person so I'd better just suck it up and pull the ol' nod'n'smile and hope the subject changes!
That's such a wrong way to approach things. Everyone will disagree eventually. Everyone will find that one thing about another person that drives them crazy in a bad way. Every couple will get tired of each other if they can't step back and say 'you're wrong' about something.
It's OK to be wrong. Hell, it's OK to be right. Everything about your opinion is OK because it's yours. It's a tell-tale sign that after everything you've done, everyone you've met, and ever place you've been, that you've still got enough of yourself left to say "I believe" to any given matter. Fight about it. You might even be right. But don't forget to accept that you might be wrong, too. Open your mind to the possibility that somebody besides you could have a better grasp on something than you.
Learn.
But when you're right, don't be so fucking mean about it. Teach others. Help them to understand but for the love of baby Jesus don't shove it down their throats. Give those facts, quote those instances, poke your tongue out. Just don't get mad if they don't see it your way.
This is by no means an excuse to be bull-headed. You need to understand when to back down. You need to be able to tell someone you love "I don't agree with you, but I still think you're great," or "You'll full of shit but let's do something more fun and argue about this another day after we've thought about it."
You will not always agree with your mate. But why should you? They're you're OTHER half. Do you understand what that means? Even if they're you're BETTER half, they're still your OTHER half. That means you're also half. You don't get a whole by combining two of the same halves. That's boring. That's the true recipe for disaster.
Two of the same puzzle pieces do not fit together.
Yang doesn't spin without Yin.
You wouldn't know day from night if you only had one or the other.
Don't be ashamed of your differences. You should celebrate them. Take a day away from your boyfriend/girlfriend/bifriend/shemale/hermaphrodite/cross dresser once in awhile and just remember who you are. Revel in being you, because NOBODY ELSE CAN.
"There are not more than five musical notes, yet the combinations of these five give rise to more melodies than can ever be heard.
There are not more than five primary colours, yet in combination
they produce more hues than can ever been seen.
There are not more than five cardinal tastes, yet combinations of
them yield more flavours than can ever be tasted."
― Sun Tzu, The Art of War
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